Rude Rodeo.. I don't understand (WHY!?)

Rude Rodeo.. I don't understand (WHY!?)?
I got a job a month ago at a barrel racing stable. We are the only stable that has 7 girls act like a family. We all care about one another, except this one girl. (lets call her Kassi) Kassi rides for the same barn as us.. Owns 3 horses at the stable and feels like she's "The shit" I just started working here 2 months ago and she gives me compliments.. but they're RUDE! Yesterday she said "Wow, you actually look pretty with make up on!" it's getting worse and worse... I have been riding for 15 yrs.. I was trained by some top notch trainers in Wellington, Florida for jumping.. I'm learning barrel racing.. So I'm in the powder puff division.. My boss asked us all to look for what we should do as a group together this summer and one girl asked if we could do an english jumping show... ( The horses did jumping before barrels.) Kassi stared at me and said "NO ONE has the training to even do that here! Except me. " I was insulted.. but all I did was smile at her.. and ignore her.. Also, she's been talking about me to the other riders in the arena.. I was on a lazy horse that can't lope the poles or barrels and she got the girls to all laugh at me and sarcastically cheer me on while I was riding in the games.. She doesn't know it pisses me off.. I know I can ride way better than her.. but that's not the point. I'm 19, she is too. My boss knows she's a pain in the butt, everyone at the barn does too. It's just frustrating.. because everyone tells me to avoid her.. and I do.. but she's comming at me being a jerk.. but she covers it up with "negative" compliments. I've been ignoring her... it looks like it doesn't bother me but when I go home I vent to my boyfriend about her to the point where he tells me I should quit. What would you do? What should I do? OH! and while we all act like a family.. She mumbles under her breath praying that one of us from our team knocks a barrel or pole down.. It's rather annoying.. We're not competing for money.. she doesn't think i notice because I'm so new.. but it makes me feel like she's doing the same to me.. All the other girls act like a family.. except Kassi.. she is the only one who doesn't.
Horses - 10 Answers
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Tell the Bitch to back off.. Shes the type that needs to be put in her Place.. So when she says something Just go off on her let all your frustration Out.. Call her every name under the sun :) then i bet she will be like your sister. good luck
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firstly maybe suttely use some of her comments back at her, for example, when she says something like 'youlook pretty with your make-up on' say something back like, oh thanks, maybe you should try it sometime?' she sounds like a pain to me, but i know someone like her, next time she laughs at you on a lazy horse or something, ask her if she wants to ride it and get her to be laughed at instead of her, when she talks to you ignore her, or say something that really annoys someone without it being obvisous, i know this sounds a bit immature, but saying to someone, 'whoose a grumpy bunny rabbit today', or 'who got out of the wrong side of the bed today?' but in a baby voice as if you are talking to a baby, talk to her like that because it subtly annoys people :) hope thi helps and good luck :)
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You sound a lot like me when I was first jumping into actually working in the horse bussiness rather than just riding. To be honest, my entire life I let people say some really rude shit to me and I just smiled and let them do it. But it's not healthy to hold things in because the more you do the worse it will become and it will literally drive you insane. My advice cut the smiles. No more mister nice guy, I'm not saying become a bitch to the girl, but show her you're not to be messed with. I had to do it to. When someone said something negative about my riding in a rude way I will call them out on it. There is no need to for someone to be nasty about anything. If she has any problem with you standing up for yourself, then she can leave. You need to knock her off her high horse. As for family....how can everyone act like family when they go along with what she says? Families wouldn't laugh at another "family member" they would offer help. If I were you, I wouldn't pay attention to any of them. Focus on you and your riding. You will go far and she will be stuck in the same spot being a complete swine that she is. Life in the horse business is difficult, trust me I understand and friendships come and go. You will lose friends but you can't let that stop your from doing what you love. Tell her to step off. Be stern, show no fear. You know when a horse charges at you and you have to assert yourself...it's the same deal.
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Ok, some girls just want to be *****s and there's not much you can do. Just smile and be polite, maybe throw a few subtle insults her way, but never let the smile slip from your face. Just let me tell you that her reward is causing pain, so don't reward her. DO NOT stop smiling, I can't stress that enough. See, this is a normal girl problem and I've had it too. If you go at her angrily calling her every bad word you know, she'll know how bad she's hurt you and be happy. So, remember this: She is a pathetic ***** who can only get pleasure from causing others pain. If you let her make you upset, she's won. Don't let the ***** win and you'll be fine. See, when I've been made fun of, I just smile and be civil, and never let it get to me. The girls who did that just gave up on me because i didn't make it fun. If this doesn't work, talk to your boss. Your boss does not need to let you get harassed and poor sports should not be welcome on any team. @ride him cowgirl- I'm sorry, but doing something like that would only let the girl know she's won and that her comments are getting to her! That would egg her on and make things worse! It may be tempting, but it isn't the right way to handle the situation.
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Don't let her get to you. Whenever she says something rude to you, tell her off or you could say something even ruder. Don't even look at her nor talk to her unless she says something rude to you again. Couldn't you tell the stables manager and they could kick her out...?
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Well you have a couple of options.. You can continue to ignore it and be civil, although this may not stop her and she'll continue to speak to you how she pleases, or you can make her look like a tw*t in a passive manner. With bitchy people like that, I often find that they hate it when someone laughs off their comments or turns a nasty remark on it's head, usually because they have no sense of humour or don't know how to retaliate. If she feels she's being made a fool out of, she'll be less likely to make smart remarks in the future - but you need to be fairly quick witted in order to catch them out. You could also outright put her in her place and just not take any crap from her, which may make her cut out the rubbish or make her worse, because you are the same age you could find it's the latter. AVOID being nasty, be stern but not rude and don't insult her, if you do then she'll know she's gotten to you and it will not do you any favours. Don't stoop to her level.
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The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome. You were told to ignore her, you've been ignoring her and guess what...it hasn't worked! So...why do you keep ignoring her? clearly, she's waiting for a response. give her one. The next time she snides at you, bring up all of the anger she's caused in you, and stand in her face....and tell her point blank: "What the f**** is your problem? You've got a problem with me? WHAT IS IT? Say it! Have the balls to say it to my face or GET OFF MY F*** Back!" And most important, don't let her leave without giving you an explanation. Hound her. If she turns away, follow her, tell her what a coward she is for not wanting to face you and tell you to your face what her insecurity is..... you'll put her down a peg or two. Some people need a verbal punch in the face to get the point. You're her designated doormat....ask yourself if you want to keep being her designated doormat, or do you want to stand up for yourself because you don't deserve to be treated like dog crap. If you get up in her face....try to do it in front of others.....because then you'll be seen and known as the girl with GUTS....instead of the gutless wonder. Get MAD and use that anger to your advantage. Put this sh!thead in her place once and for all. I'll bet anything, she'll stop. People like her like to be snide to people that won't fight back.
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Ignoring is usually the best thing to do, but we all know that at times that is impossible! So, next time she makes a snarky comment about you, just say one right back to her. Or just ream her out, which ever works for you.
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I agree that ignoring or grinning and bearing it is probably the best way to go but, having a few sarcastic comments up your sleeve does no harm. If she had made the make-up comment to me I would have retorted, "Well thank you. Pity it does nothing to help you." On ehr bragging that no one has the experience to go jumping I would have thrown down the gauntlet and challenged her. Ditto with the slow horse, I would have got off the horse, handed her the reins and said, "I am not a good enough rider to get him to do it, please show me how." If she continues to pick on you and takes no notice of returned sarcastic humour, smack her alongside the ear!
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Well, I agree with Wasabi's definition of insanity, but ignoring her is not the thing to be changed. Expect the same from her, and do a better job of ignoring her. You have no problem other than the frustration leading you to rant about it. Many people give backhanded compliments and act exactly as this girl does. If you don't learn to truly ignore it and see it as her problem, and not yours, you have a rough road ahead. She has no power unless you give it to her. People like her eventually implode when there is no one around to allow them to get to them. The sooner you and others truly learn to separate yourselves from her comments, the sooner she will implode. If you have the skill and expertise to put on a jumping competition, then just prove it by doing it. No sense arguing it out with her. You will only dignify her by responding at her level, and that is not what you want to do. Let your sense of humor prevail over your frustration, and drop all defensive responses. This is what diffuses her power to frustrate you, and is ultimately the way to tap into your own power. Insanity is doing the same thing today as you did yesterday and expecting a different outcome. So, continue to expect her to behave this way, and change the way you view it and react to it. In other words, change what you expect of yourself. After all is said and done, you are the only one you can control. Do you really want the likes of her to be controlling any part of you? Right now, you are allowing her to control you to the point that it is affecting your relationship with your boyfriend. Realize that being argued with is to be validated, while being ignored imparts a clear message that says "you are not worthy of my attention".

Are "Buzzwords" universal or subjective? What are yours

Are "Buzzwords" universal or subjective? What are yours?
I am wondering if words which cause very strong emotional response in one person may not do so at all in somebody else. The car industry has, for decades, tried to find model names which sound right, so that buyers take a liking to the vehicle even from hearing the name. I'm not sure if this really works though. The following are my personal buzz words, they make me happy. How about yours? America Arizona Armagnac Bacon Bay Belize Bermuda Brazil Brittany Camaro Caprice Cognac Cohiba Concarneaux Cord Feline Firebird Lizard Melbourne Oregon Pacific Paraguay Paris Perth Phoenix Pontiac Queensland San Francisco South Stockholm Sweden Tacoma Tacuarembo Vancouver Volvo Wellington West Yaguaron
Psychology - 4 Answers
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The only buzz "word" that I like is "You won". Oh yeah, another that works for me is "Dinner is ready".
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Paid in full. Wine. Friends. Day off. Animals. Nature. Photography. Art. Books. Italian. The Blues. Pasta. Generous. Kindness. Peace.
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As we can see, buzzwords are subjective. May I tell some in different languages? Herbstzeitlose Buschwindröschen Airone Mazurca Cáfé we shall overcome
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A great question, Tahini :) Ferrari Schatz (German) cafe sex (s-e-x with a drawl) chocolat (Fr) зайка (Russian) Can my current BF's name be a buzzword, too? :))) The sound of all mentioned above 'cause a very strong emotional response ' in me ;)

Chances of ever getting into a good college

Chances of ever getting into a good college?
Okay, well first of all at the moment im finishing my freshman year online. Do online high school courses look bad on my resume? Secondly, im going to be spending three out of four of my high school years not in America. Does that lessen my chances? Im usually a straight A student easily but seem to be struggling with algebra I honors at the moment ): but I am getting tutoring and doing better. Lately, ive been completely amd utterly stressing out about college and i know its a bit early but everyone knows how competitive it is these days. The MAIN THING i have against me right now is so far i have NO EXTRA CIRRICULARS!!! which is freaking me out but im not in school, like I said im doing it online. Last year, i resided in wellington new zealand but entered half way through the school year and wasnt allowed to join anything annoyingly. Ontop of that their education was a year behind academically so i get no credits for the six months i spent in school there but luvkily i was doing it online at the same time for the american cirriculum. Im generally from america i was raised in los angeles so i have the dreamd of big nice colleges like everyone else. A year ago i stood out as a student. Captain of teams student council prez salutatorial alter serving community service, everything you could ever want in a well rounded student. Moving ruined everything for me or so it seems. Either way it makes everything another level of difficulty. The main things im looking for answers on is: 1: is being out of country for the majority of my highschool years going to greatly impact me?(will be in america for senior year) 2: how badly does my freshman year reflect on my resume?(no extra cirriculars) 3: can the fact of living in 3 different countries over they three years in any way look like a good thing??? 4: how much more effort do you think ill need to put in to syick put above the rest? 5: at the moment it looks like im going to Raffles Girls School - the top government school in singapore with a world wide aknowleged IB program. Is that jst at good or better than going to an international school? (hoping it may make them think of how ive experienced and done well in different cultures and still succeeded in such different environments) i cant help but think all this moving is going to ruin any chance i ever had of going to a school like UCLA or Duke. Ive worked so hard my whole short life for such things.(i had been accepted to some of the top private schools in california and scouted by them in basketball) amd my record was impecable i just fear that it was all for nothing. Please, id much appreciate your oppinion on all of this. Anything would be helpful - advice, ect. Thank you in advance an please excuae my spelling im fastly typing away on my iphone at 1:30am :)
Higher Education (University +) - 0 Answers
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School in New Zealand is actually very good, and there are some fine private schools. If you make sure you're in an IB program, your diploma will be recognized all over the world. Elite USA schools will be impressed. Consider also the New Zealand universities. Aukland is good overall. Canterbury, in Christchurch is good. Otago is good for Medical studies.

RORY LOPEZ - immigrated to Nelson New Zealand 1930s. Champion Boxer/ Wrestler CHEREKEE INDIAN did u no of him

RORY LOPEZ - immigrated to Nelson New Zealand 1930s. Champion Boxer/ Wrestler CHEREKEE INDIAN did u no of him?
RORY LOPEZ - AMERICAN CHEREKEE INDIAN . I would like to know if anyone may know of this man. It was between 1930 - late 1930s that he came to Nelson, New Zealand. He may have changed his surname to LOPER and was good friends with a man called Reg Fawcett in Nelson. They worked together in a roading gang building roads in Collingwood in the Golden Bay - Nelson. RORY was a champion boxer or wrestler and had many trophy belts he had won. He knew a woman called WINNIE FAWCETT in Nelson and they had 2 daughters. PEGGY and JACQUIE they where never married and were not allowed to be together. He would have been about 37 years old then. Rory may have had 2 sisters here in Nelson or other relatives we don't know of. He may have know a lady by the surname of Emmerson ???? RORY died alone at the age of about 72 years in a house fire in Wellington, New Zealand. In 1974 we think. He was my Grandfather I never knew and my mums Dad she never really knew. If anyone may know of him and can lead some light on his past we would love to have the opportunity to know a little more about him. With the kindest regards Janine
Boxing - 1 Answers
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I never heard of him but would like to try and help you find something. A site like www.boxrec.com which lists boxers and all their opponents might help although I did not see his name on a search. If you could list any semi-popular fighter of that era that you are sure he fought I may be able to find his name at least as an opponent. Perhaps you can search different variations of his name and come up with a possible alias as well. I hope your search leads you to something if it was wrestling it wouldn't be on the site listed but there are plenty of wrestling sites that will do the same thing boxrec does for boxing.